Day 14 - Calling reinforcements

On request of Ian I called in reinforcements today - a friend to come help.

Asking for help

It was a long conversation with Ian - mostly because of course I have a resistance to asking for help. I wonder if it is too much. Do we really need it. Should we be able to do with on our own. If we are doing it on our own, should we then still ask for help. Are we an inconvenience.

I hope that if people ask me for help, they know they aren't an inconvenience. They aren't too much and that they don't need to be drowning to ask for help. They can ask so that they don't start drowning.

But I have these thoughts - and thanks to the push from Ian I asked. And help came.

Ian got to take a shower by himself. No kid talking to him or me waiting for him to hurry to help me, etc. It seemed to do him well. It seemed to do Elba well having C here again. It felt nice for me to have more hands and company, and the night routine went smoother.

It is hard to know when to ask for help. And if we do, what kind of help. And if that, from who. I don't have the answers... I am figuring it out.

Nutrition

Ian got me some pure chocolate (and for Elba - she claimed the mint one). Still going strong on the beverages, on the supplements, on the 3 meals a day, broth twice a day.

I wondered if because little M is a bit sick (and Elba) - more on this in a moment. It would be better to have dinner in the room again. It wasn't. It is quite a lot for Ian to bring up and for Elba to sit still given the different set up. We resolved that dinners will be downstairs.

My little man & Elbie are a bit sick

I hoped it was just reflux (the congestion), but little Man started coughing the same day Elba started coughing.

I did, as I do, turn to my many books to see if I should do something differently. What to look out for. Messaged our midwife as well. It is scary such a little being being sick. But so far it seems okay... feeding normally, pee and poops. Just congested and coughing.

For now - lots of breastfeeding, skin to skin, rest and just monitoring.

And that is day 14 - let's see how this goes.